“Wow bro, look over there! The one in white!” At once, curious eyes shifted and a fascinated gaze falls upon an attractive young woman at a distance. As guys, don’t we sometimes find ourselves in these situations when we are out with other guys? But when do we take it too far?

A sister of mine was caught in an uncomfortable situation. She posted a photo of herself and instantly, the comments came flooding in. Most of which complimented her look, but then there were some that stirred anger and got her upset. A disturbing one came from a brother’s message. In the message, he first complimented her, saying that she looks good, but then took it too far when he said that she’s someone who would be lusted after.

As one who journeys with both brothers and sisters in community, I felt so disgusted reading it. I felt that the brother could have been more sensitive in the way he spoke to this sister. And to speak in such a manner so carelessly, it is not difficult to figure the intention and the state of his heart. Yet, I admit, that I too am guilty of this. Lustful thoughts have crossed my mind; when walking past an attractive person of the opposite gender or when provocative photographs surface on social media. I too, have not respected the sisters in my life.

… they too are God’s creation, made in the Almighty’s image and likeness.

As I begin to discover the person of Christ in my life, my perspective changes. The sisters in the community, as well as those whom I meet or see on the streets are not objects of men’s desire, but they too are God’s creation, made in the Almighty’s image and likeness. And as a brother, I am invited to honour the dignity and the person as a sister.

I write this, to urge you my brothers and myself, to always remember and be mindful of our words and thoughts towards the sisters in our life; in community, those in our family, our sisters, mothers, grandmothers, strangers, our relatives and so on. As men, we are called to honour the dignity of the sisters in our lives. Our words, our actions and how we behave are so important when we interact with the sisters.

As men, we are called to honour the dignity of the sisters in our lives.

There is so much wisdom in the Word of God that speaks about this to help encourage us, men and women of God, to walk as chastely in life as possible. In 1 Thessalonians 4:3-5, it says “For this is the will of God, your sanctification: that you abstain from fornication; that each one of you know how to control your own body, in holiness and honor, not with lustful passion, like the Gentiles who do not know God”. So brothers, let us strive to be real men who follow after the heart of Christ, honouring the women, the sisters in our lives!

This story was first published on Confessions of the Beloved.